Many will be seeing or visiting extended family members over the holiday.  If you find a change in acuity here are some recommendations in relationship handling. Learn to create a better experience for everyone and make the visit truly meaningful.

Do:

• Limit visitors to 1-2 at a time and keep the environment calm (turn off loud TV/music).
• Schedule visits during times they are most relaxed or alert. Avoid nap times, or periods of anxiety like sundowning ( late afternoon confusion brought on by shadows of changing light)
• Keep area well lit.
• Share arrival in advance, in writing if possible.
• Use short, simple sentences with one idea at a time.
• Bring photos they can relate too.
• Redirection instead of arguing a point
• Let them respond when asked a question, if they can
• Maintain eye contact and speak slowly with a calm, normal voice.
• Gently remind them who you are, e.g., “Hi Mom, I’m your daughter Susan.”
• Allow time to process questions; ask simple, open-ended ones.
• Be okay with silence – sitting quietly together can be peaceful.
• Manage your own feelings, if they express fear, sadness, or frustration.
• Talk about the past; long-term memories often remain intact.
• Use gentle, caring touch whenever allowed

Try Not To:

• Argue or ask if they remember recent events.
• Show impatience with repetition; they can’t help it.
• Avoid arguing to make a point
• Highlight mistakes or speak for them.
• Talk to them like children or speak about them as if they aren’t present.
• Force them into your reality. Meet them where they are.

 Be prepared to be patient, empathetic, and loving. The time you have is precious, so aim to leave with no regrets. Be the best version of yourself for someone you love and who has loved you. You’ll create a better experience for everyone and make the visit truly meaningful, for everyone.